Thursday, April 19, 2012

Living in the moment

One of my first experiences this morning  -besides meeting the courier once again in my pj's -  was having a sip of coffee (while I rushed into the shower 10 minutes before the store opened) and instead of getting mouthful of milky espresso, I got a mouthful of milk skin. Yuck.

I looked in the mirror and thought oh dear  if this is the start of the day, what lies ahead! Have you ever said a "God please keep me sane today" prayer?"

 The sophisticated version is "God please give me grace for this day" Same thing really. Well I decided to make a choice and give my day to God, I was not going to let  my busy day rule me, but rather the other way around.

The shop was manic, I had a rep come over while I was making the boys lunch, but you know what? My boys were brilliant once again. I hardly heard from them in 4 hours. (This is not how it always goes I have to add here!) But stealing those moments in those "shop hours" to do stuff with them like this:

And to make them car cut out sandwiches and heart pieces of cheese for lunch and Matty saying: " Are these hearts because you love us so much mummy?" These are those special moments that you have to remember.

As mum's we seem to live on guilt, guilt because we do work and don't spend time with the kids, guilt because we don't work and possibly can't provide as well, guilt when we spend 5 minutes doing something for us and then to top it off you meet an older person who says, "Cherish the moments as they go by to quickly" Great more guilt!

I was discussing this with a mum friend this week and we both agreed about living in the moment. If your child asks you to dance with them - then do it! If they need to show you their new superhero moves, then go look! But don't stop living your life to the full just so you can stare 24/7 at your kids!

When my half day was over at work by 2pm today, we had a Q&A session figuring out what to do with our last bit of holidays. Luke ended up saying he would like to stay at home and Matty said he would like a picnic in the park. So that is what we did!

I met another school mum in the park who was slightly impressed with our "setup". I told her it was our little treat for the day. I need more tins by the way, perfect for popping snacks into vintage style. And whilst my "setup" was impressive, she was watching a total of 5 kids that afternoon - helping out a friend - that is impressive! 

Have I told you that one of our kittens Milo follows us where ever we go? She should have been a dog really. Decided to share my milk with her, she must have felt like a princess.

What a great afternoon making memories that will last forever with my boys.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Being a Mumtrepreneur

School holidays are here. This time instead of planning something special and exciting for each day we have just taken each day as it has come. This is Matthews first official "school holidays" so it has been nice to just revert back to how it used to be.

There is another factor though, business does not stop during school holidays, the 3 mornings I have child free are vital to getting essentials completed so I am having to work around these. Today was one of those days when I basically had my laptop open all day working on the newsletter and website piece by piece in between finding lego pieces, building lego ships, making lunch and dancing with the boys.

This is a common event in our house, but I choose to see it from the positive. Yes I miss out on being a mum 24/7 and being there playing with them all day however,

A) I think this is a sugar coated dream in my head and I bet you can ask any fulltime mum if she spends 9 hours a day playing with her child and I think you would find she bursts out laughing!

B) The positive side is that I am here! If Luke or Matthew fall and hurt there knee, I can be there to kiss it better, I can sneak in a quick lego build, I can have a workout dance with them or have a look at what they just created. As long as I choose to do it! If I hear "Mummy" my response should always be to get up and go, not the dreadful "I'll be their in a minute" This is not a way to make others feel guilty but as a work at home mum, I have to choose to do this otherwise I would just be a work at home, an entrepreneur and I would feel lost!

Housework does suffer though! I found lots of messy piles throughout our house, but I am so pleased that I am not a pristine clean mummy, the boys had so much fun today they were so good and just played for hours together


I very much sensed that this week could get pretty intense with having each others company 24/7 so I added a new rule to the behaviour chart. This week they could earn a special present if they got no more than 2 red stickers and at least 5 green stickers against each other on the charts.

I have mostly enjoyed watching them be best buddies this week, staying in their pj's till lunch time and enjoying each others company

I want to record a journey - a story of what it is like to be a mum and a business owner at the same time. My new resolution is to post at least once a week of the ups and downs of being a Mum and Entrepreneur combined!